Communicating in Development of the Social Self Environment

How Do You Say " I Love You"?love stand for things. Love is an affection shown
Why is it so hard to say those three magicaltoward another. It may be towards a parent,
words ,(I Love You)?child, or lover. For each word that a human
With all the lines of communication it seems thatspeaks , there is an emotion attached to it.
engaging in any other topic such as hate talk; joyOften you may find yourself being talked too, by
talk; peace and pain talk are easily . Let the topica smile or even a handshake. Hugs and laughter
of saying I Love You come into the picture and aare other forms of communication. Some of
different tune begins to play. Why is this?these gestures may speak louder than the actual
Even as a child , you were often told I Love Youwords. You can tell a great deal about a person
by your parents. When you got hurt mama wouldwith just a simple handshake. A hug has been
kiss you and say , "I Love You" and that boo-booknown to send off mixed signals . A glance can
would feel so much better. You were alwayssuggest a variety of things. Still, people don't
advised to talk about the joy , fears and hurts inrespect the power of wordless messages. Maybe
your life. To this very day it is still very difficult tothe message of "I Love You" was given by one
say this positive statement. "I Love You."of the above gestures. Some people find it very
Everyone that is human has a degree of languagehard to voice these three simple words.
. You may be confused about how you learned it .It is essential that humans know how to
As a baby you learned a language , not taught bycommunicate when they are using certain words.
your parents. You had to take steps in learningPeople need to control their words. With each
this. First , you babbled; then you began to sayword comes a definition and feeling. This is only
words; and lastly you put the words together andwhen one can take control of their lives. The
made a sentence. All this was done on your ownwords people use in a real sense can determine
as a child. Children are fast at catching on tothe action and belief of others. Use these words
words and the proper way to use them. Why is itgenerously rather than be narrowed by them.
so hard for adults?Misunderstanding begins to cause problems in a
As an adult , you either hear the language of loverelationship when words aren't used properly.
or you don't. Sometimes when you are awakenUnless you like talking to yourself , take some
from a dream, and it was one where loversadvice and remember it takes two to carry on a
looked into each others eyes, a simple harmonyconversation. This truly means that if your
falls over you and you experience the urge to tellpartner is speaking , you better be listening. The
your partner you love them. Wouldn't it bemajority of the time , by the time someone has
wonderful to have such an open line ofsaid what they wanted to say the other party
communication all the time? It would be veryhas forgot half of it. They are only prepared to
nourishing and rewarding in a healthy relationship.hear what they want too. So the next time you
Once you have an open line of communication,want to say "I Love You" make sure you are
have you thought of how you will keep it open?using the proper words or let the wordless
It is very true that communication is more thanmessage be shown by the gestures you have
what you allow your ears to hear. Words arewaited so long to express.
wonderful, and shouldn't be taken likely. Words of