| In our home we have constant expressions | | | | * Mothers have a way of instilling life |
| of ourselves and those who we live with. | | | | in us by the fact of who she is. Mothers |
| If you live alone, with a mate, or with | | | | are looked at as the warming center of |
| your husband and your children we are in | | | | the home. Sons want their wife to be |
| competition with each other. We all | | | | like their mother. Daughters want to do |
| search for spaces in this confined home | | | | or not do what their mother did. |
| to be our own person. Fighting for this | | | | * With sons they bring treasures of |
| space can be difficult because sharing | | | | their mother and want the wife to |
| is not a natural part of who we are. | | | | embrace them. Daughters will cherish |
| * First there has to be a realization | | | | what mother shared with her and she will |
| the mother and father have been there | | | | want her husband to recognize the |
| first. They have the priority. What they | | | | importance of her mother. Conflict |
| surround themselves with is expressing | | | | arises if jealousy becomes a part of the |
| who they are. There furniture is chosen | | | | perspective. |
| to meet their needs. | | | | * A lamp that you had in your childhood |
| * Bringing two people together from two | | | | that was there when you grew up. A table |
| different families can be a challenge in | | | | that stood for memories of your |
| itself. Sometimes the things that come | | | | childhood home. Dishes mother had, tools |
| have deep meaning to the one while the | | | | that father had, handed down from |
| other has similar responses to their | | | | generation to generation. |
| treasures. Making it all fit in is | | | | As you set up housekeeping, if you are |
| challenging. | | | | doing it for yourself than all your |
| * Furniture is a powerful emotional | | | | decision are yours and do not have to be |
| response to who we are. We grew up in a | | | | shared by anyone. If you are setting up |
| home that your family did things a | | | | a home for you and your family, what we |
| certain way. Regardless of what it | | | | want does not always the say so. We have |
| looked like, this is a part of who you | | | | to respect each others feeling about the |
| are. Someone trying to change you can be | | | | things that are important to them. |
| detrimental. | | | | |