| In our home we have constant expressions of | | | | |
| ourselves and those who we live with. If you | | | | * Mothers have a way of instilling life in us |
| live alone, with a mate, or with your husband | | | | by the fact of who she is. Mothers are looked |
| and your children we are in competition with | | | | at as the warming center of the home. Sons |
| each other. We all search for spaces in this | | | | want their wife to be like their mother. |
| confined home to be our own person. Fighting | | | | Daughters want to do or not do what their |
| for this space can be difficult because | | | | mother did. |
| sharing is not a natural part of who we are. | | | | |
| | | | * With sons they bring treasures of their |
| * First there has to be a realization the | | | | mother and want the wife to embrace them. |
| mother and father have been there first. They | | | | Daughters will cherish what mother shared |
| have the priority. What they surround | | | | with her and she will want her husband to |
| themselves with is expressing who they are. | | | | recognize the importance of her mother. |
| There furniture is chosen to meet their | | | | Conflict arises if jealousy becomes a part of |
| needs. | | | | the perspective. |
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| * Bringing two people together from two | | | | * A lamp that you had in your childhood that |
| different families can be a challenge in | | | | was there when you grew up. A table that |
| itself. Sometimes the things that come have | | | | stood for memories of your childhood home. |
| deep meaning to the one while the other has | | | | Dishes mother had, tools that father had, |
| similar responses to their treasures. Making | | | | handed down from generation to generation. |
| it all fit in is challenging. | | | | |
| | | | As you set up housekeeping, if you are doing |
| * Furniture is a powerful emotional response | | | | it for yourself than all your decision are |
| to who we are. We grew up in a home that your | | | | yours and do not have to be shared by anyone. |
| family did things a certain way. Regardless | | | | If you are setting up a home for you and your |
| of what it looked like, this is a part of who | | | | family, what we want does not always the say |
| you are. Someone trying to change you can be | | | | so. We have to respect each others feeling |
| detrimental. | | | | about the things that are important to them. |