| In our home we have constant expressions of | | | | detrimental. |
| ourselves and those who we live with. If you live | | | | * Mothers have a way of instilling life in us by the |
| alone, with a mate, or with your husband and | | | | fact of who she is. Mothers are looked at as the |
| your children we are in competition with each | | | | warming center of the home. Sons want their |
| other. We all search for spaces in this confined | | | | wife to be like their mother. Daughters want to |
| home to be our own person. Fighting for this | | | | do or not do what their mother did. |
| space can be difficult because sharing is not a | | | | * With sons they bring treasures of their mother |
| natural part of who we are. | | | | and want the wife to embrace them. Daughters |
| * First there has to be a realization the mother | | | | will cherish what mother shared with her and she |
| and father have been there first. They have the | | | | will want her husband to recognize the importance |
| priority. What they surround themselves with is | | | | of her mother. Conflict arises if jealousy becomes |
| expressing who they are. There furniture is | | | | a part of the perspective. |
| chosen to meet their needs. | | | | * A lamp that you had in your childhood that was |
| * Bringing two people together from two | | | | there when you grew up. A table that stood for |
| different families can be a challenge in itself. | | | | memories of your childhood home. Dishes mother |
| Sometimes the things that come have deep | | | | had, tools that father had, handed down from |
| meaning to the one while the other has similar | | | | generation to generation. |
| responses to their treasures. Making it all fit in is | | | | As you set up housekeeping, if you are doing it |
| challenging. | | | | for yourself than all your decision are yours and |
| * Furniture is a powerful emotional response to | | | | do not have to be shared by anyone. If you are |
| who we are. We grew up in a home that your | | | | setting up a home for you and your family, what |
| family did things a certain way. Regardless of | | | | we want does not always the say so. We have |
| what it looked like, this is a part of who you are. | | | | to respect each others feeling about the things |
| Someone trying to change you can be | | | | that are important to them. |